If you’ve tried everything in your effort to meet people and win love in 2015 but still spent New Year’s alone, it’s time to incorporate new strategies in your Marriage 2016 Campaign.
LDS singles often say they feel powerless when it comes to meeting the right people. They feel victim to circumstance, negative stereotypes and statistics that are stacked against them.
You’ll start to see a light in the tunnel when you turn off old habits and routines and begin doing things different and better. If the old things didn’t work for you, it’s time to try something new in 2016!
The implementation of new dating strategies, methods and opportunities in your New Year’s resolutions will help you win your Marriage 2016 campaign.
Here are three practical steps to guide your dating shake-up and resolutions:
1. Take a look back.
Identify what you’ve done in the past and figure out why it hasn’t worked for you (especially if it has worked for others). A conversation with a trusted friend or dating coach can go a long way in helping you identify what specific things hold you back.
Here are some sample questions to ask:
- What are the obstacles that block your progress?
- What fears impede your dating progress?
- Are you self-conscious about something? Can it be fixed?
- Do you lack confidence? When and why?
- Has your dating pool simply been depleted?
2. Investigate the solutions.
What are the remedies to get around the obstacles you’ve identified? Problem solving will be a big part of your success in 2016. Finding love is more than just dumb luck. A trusted friend or coach can be extremely valuable in suggesting applicable solutions you might not consider on your own.
Possible solutions may include understanding the following:
- What dating methods are others finding successful?
- What resources are available to help you overcome your specific obstacles?
- How are specific people you know successful in finding love? What did they do?
- Who can you recruit to be part of your Marriage 2016 Campaign? Sometimes it’s who you know that leads you to the right place? (Plus, everyone needs a cheerleader)
3. Take a new step. Once you’ve listed some concrete ideas it’s time to implement them.
- A new or revamped online dating profile with flattering new photos and positive profile content intended to start conversations with like-minded singles.
- A regularly-scheduled (weekly or bi-monthly) meeting with a wise friend or coach to discuss actionable items that will help you solve specific dating-related problems.
- Clueing into course work, self-help books or seeking coaching sessions with a professional about whatever specific subject you’re struggling with.
- Install and use Tinder, LDS Matchup or any other popular dating apps. Don’t throw the baby out with the bathwater. Just because other people report negative experiences, doesn’t mean you’ll have one. Thousands of people meet their match using dating apps.
- Consider a style update. If you haven’t changed your hairstyle or are wearing clothes more than 5 years old, consider updating your look.
If fear, lack of experience, confidence issues, image problems, past heartbreak, divorce, baggage or almost any other challenges stop you, know that you’re not alone in this struggle. Enlist the help and support of those who already love you or those who would love to help and get to know you! Friends, family, mentors, counselors, coaches and yes, The LDS Matchmaker would love to be a part of your journey to love!